I want you to remember yourself from before you met your husband. You were a wonderful and loving and lovable person before you met him. You can be that person again. Make a decision to become the best you can be – with or without your husband. When you choose to stay in grief and loss – you actually prevent yourself from growing and becoming the person you are meant to be.
Client Question: Dear AdvisorIsIn – I need help with my relationship. I am worried that my younger, immature boyfriend might leave me because of his family, and everything he does is really upsetting me because of that situation and his irresponsibility.
Answer: One thing I can tell you – you are worthy and lovable. Do not make this relationship so important. Start planning for what you want to do with your own life – with or without him.
Start concentrating on you and how you can look and feel and be the best that you can. Find fun things to do, places to go and things to learn. Buy yourself a new outfit or get a manicure – instead of worrying about what he is doing.
Join something you like and participate. If you just turn your attention to yourself and become the best you can be – spend your time becoming the best, kindest, most fun person you can be – everything will work out.
- Either he will make a decision to be with you and not let his relatives influence him – and he will love the independent you.
- Or, if all your attention is not on him, he will drift away, because he is too immature for you – And it will be OK – because you have made a great life, with or without him.
Client: Thank you for the encouraging words, I hope things turn out the way I would like them to be.
Answer: Just remember – you cannot change anyone else to be who you want them to be. They have free choice to stay just as they are.
But you are worthy of love and attention from someone that is totally loyal to you. Give your boyfriend the freedom to meet your expectations. If this young man cannot do that – you will hurt yourself by holding on to him. If you hold on – you won’t be able to find the man who will be there for you, all the way.
We have to let go of one thing – before we can hold something better. That can be scary, and can make you feel temporarily lost. Work on believing good things about you. Be strong on the inside for you and firmly take care of you – and be soft and kind on the outside. You can try the free Mini-Meditation and also purchase a Mini-Meditation about Forgiveness at AdvisorIsIn.com/Meditations
Ask your angels to give you a sign that you are loved and to let you know that you need to do what is right for you. Take care of you and be the kind of person you would want to be with – and you will make a great life for yourself. In additon, you will attract just the right kind of man for you. This man, or someone better for you. You deserve it!
Your message from the angels is – You must take care of yourself and make sure you are doing what you really want to do – in all of your life. You are not responsible for your boyfriend. You are responsible for taking good care of you.
Love and Light, Eve, AdvisorIsIn.com – click here for personal e-mail advice and Angel Reading – AdvisorIsIn.com/advice and angels.
First, have you ever wondered why your angels didn’t help you with something? It is because you didn’t ask. Angels cannot interfere with our free choice, except in emergency situations. I’ve often thought – “Well, that was a miserable conversation or evening! Where were my angels when I needed them?” Then I realize that I didn’t ask for their help. I didn’t ask for their guidance in saying the right thing, and in seeing others with love and compassion. So the first thing to do to connect with your angels is to ask the angels for help.
But perhaps you have asked for help and didn’t feel that you received any help. I have felt that way, too. What I have found is that if I didn’t feel I received help there were usually two problems with my request: I was either asking the angels to change someone else to suit my desires or I was asking for something that was not in my best interests. Let me illustrate:
Asking for Others to Change:
Before I learned better, I believed that if other people and circumstances would change, then I would be happy. But the angels do not interfere with other people’s personal choices, just to please me. So I have learned to ask, instead, to receive whatever blessing I want from the best source – even if it is not from the person I would prefer. For example – one day while on a trip with friends, the men decided to get up early, go out for breakfast and golf, leaving the ladies with the children. At first we were a little unhappy – we would have liked the men to want to include and treat us. But no one, not even the angels, would change their minds, particularly if we ladies were feeling angry or neglected. So we asked ourselves what we were missing. We wanted to feel like we were free and having fun, too. Then we asked for help and inspiration to have a great day for ourselves.. The angels inspired us to pack up the children, go out to breakfast ourselves and then to the beach. We had a marvelous time and our needs for fun and freedom were met. Because we were happy, we had no unhappy feelings toward our men and didn’t need them to change.
Asking for Specifics
I have also learned that angels know things that we do not know. In the past, I often asked for very specific things. I have asked for a certain man to show interest in me. I have pleaded to get a particular job or to be accepted into a particular school. When I did not get what I wanted – I let it affect my trust in the angel’s help and guidance. I didn’t realize that things were always working out for me, even though I did not get what I wanted! One time I had applied for an attorney position at a hospital that was near my home and where I was sure I was meant to work. I didn’t get the job and I was disappointed. Within six months the hospital closed under major ethical and financial issues. I was so fortunate not to get that job and I got a much better job a few weeks later! From that I learned to ask for the blessings I want and need, but to trust that the angels know what is best for me and that I do not need to dictate how, when and where I will get that wonderful blessing! And I asked for the angel’s help in writing this – so Thank You Angels!
You can also try the free Mini-Meditation and also purchase a Mini-Meditation about Forgiveness at AdvisorIsIn.com/Meditations