Client Question: My husband has left me and is having an affair – I still love him and I need divine intervention
I am so sorry to hear that you are having trouble. I just want to tell you a couple of things that might help you.
–You should find someone to talk to that is safe and will just listen – someone you trust that is not family and does not have loyalty to either of you. You need someone to express your sadness, frustration, anger, or whatever – that is not your family or husband.
–You need to take the focus off of him, and do things to comfort and pamper yourself – use this as a time to be good to you – get your hair cut or colored, get your nails done, buy some small beautiful thing just for you – go on a little trip or to visit someone that is nurturing to you. (Do this, even if you don’t feel like it – you must take good care of you!)
–No matter how you feel – treat your husband with courtesy and respect – but don’t hang onto him – take care of you. He needs to feel that you respect and love yourself and that you will take care of yourself and can live without him. He is comfortable with your longing and hanging on and wanting him – it makes him feel safe.
–You can tell him how you feel – how much it hurts, and how much you love him and that you want to stay together – but respect yourself – and make it clear to him that you are going to do your best to have a good life and happiness – whether he stays or goes.
–God and the angels love you – but your husband has free will – God lets us all choose – so God will help you manage your life – but God will not take away his free will and make him stay or come back. Sometimes we are angry at God for letting things happen or not controlling another person. This is the free will we chose – and blaming God just make us very unhappy. Accept that sometimes things do not appear to go our way – but in the end you may find a silver lining to the clouds. You may not see that now – but i can tell you that you will, at some point, see the growth this has caused in your life. If you accept the challenge, you can become a better more loving and lovable you.
You can encourage him to come back and work things out by:
–Apologizing for anything (if there is anything) you may have said or done to hurt or damage him or the relationship in the past. (Do not bring up his problems or what he has done, you do the apology or forgiveness for you alone.)
–Then make an effort to forgive your husband and let all your past hurts and anger go – ask the angels for help with this. Write your anger and sadness out – and then tear it up and throw it away.
–Take care of you – and be the person he fell in love with – look good, dress the best you can, smell good, be kind and gentle – no matter what he has done. Let him wonder why you are looking good. Let him wonder what he will miss out on, if he never comes back. And if he never comes back – you will be happy and lovely and ready for someone new.
–Make your life interesting – do what you love. If you have been sacrificing for others – start taking better care of you.
–When you are afraid – Ask the angels to take away your fear. They will!
–Pray for the best outcome for you both – surround your family with white light and bless yourself and your husband with love, light and pure source energy from God. Say to God – Please take away my fear and anger – give me courage – help me be the best I can be NOW! You can try the free Mini-Meditation and also purchase a Mini-Meditation about Forgiveness at AdvisorIsIn.com/Meditations
–See a picture in your mind of you – in a happy relationship and thanking God – either a better relationship with your husband – a happy wonderful relationship with someone new.
No matter how dark it looks – believe that things are always working out for you – no matter what others do – you are so loved!
I want you to remember yourself from before you met your husband. You were a wonderful and loving and lovable person before you met him. You can be that person again. Make a decision to become the best you can be – with or without your husband. When you choose to stay in grief and loss – you actually prevent yourself from growing and becoming the person you are meant to be.
Look toward the future – ask the angels to direct your thoughts toward you and to understand that you are important. Why are you in the world – to have and give love and joy?
Make a list:
–Even though your husband is gone – what are you grateful for, still?
–What is good in your life?
–Give up on feeling guilty and sad – your husband has free choice and you didn’t cause his poor choices.
–Find two people everyday and give them an encouraging word – give a compliment and a smile – and you will be amazed at how much better you feel.
–Choose something everyday that makes you feel treated and valuable – a manicure, a magazine, a bubble bath – what gives you pleasure?
We attract what we are vibrating – We can be at levels
…High levels of lightness and joy
…Midlevels of love and caring
…Lower levels of sadness, grief, anger, guilt.
You cannot attract good things when you are in the low vibrations of grief, anger or sadness.
You are still the beautiful person you always were – do not let his leaving ruin your life. Get angry at this – and vow – I will still enjoy my life!
Then you can be happy again – you will become the lovely attractive person you are again – either he will come back, or – you will find and attract wonderful new friends and life partners.